Monday, June 28, 2010: This is the third (3rd) article in a series of seven (7) articles designed to help you or your child or your student run their own brain, and have fun doing it. If you missed the Introduction or the first two articles, just click on the title below:
What are the qualifications for the daily “brain coach?”
If you are going to be effective, you need to have a “brain coach” who will work with your child or your student (or yourself, if you are the one having fun learning how to run your very own brain). 😮
There are only 2 qualification for the “brain coach,” both crucial (not just “nice to have”):
(1) Essential: That the “brain coach” likes your child/student (or you, If you are being coached)
(2) Essential: That your child/student (or you) likes the “brain coach”
Formal credentials, training, degrees, age, gender, etc., are not relevant for purposes of being a “brain coach.” Of course it goes without saying that the “brain coach” should be responsible and trustworthy. And the logistics of being available every day are important. No one is going to drive 20 miles every day for 10 minutes of coaching. It is usually necessary to have someone close at hand.
Who can I get to help for 10 minutes each day?
A no-cost, or low-cost person is best. A neighbor? Someone from your church or club who lives nearby? An older student who is in the same school (or a school on the same block), as the student being coached? Use your imagination. 😮
Retired people are excellent, if they have patience. Sometimes babysitters work out, if they have a good relationship with the younger one being coached, and the younger one likes them.
NRA (No Relatives Allowed) is the general rule, especially near-relatives
“Why can’t I be the brain coach? I’m here all the time,” say the mothers.
True. You are there all the time. Very handy.
“You care too much,” I tell the mothers.
Here’s the problem. Here’s why the NRA (No Relatives Allowed) rule is important for the child or student. The relative’s “very loving and overly-concerned feelings” usually run too high, and can get seriously in the way of learning.
Usually the relative “cares too much” about the child’s or student’s responses. In sessions where the child or student is not “getting” SSS (Something So Simple) for the brain coach, the brain coach (the overly-concerned relative, remember) will often end up saying SALT (Something About Like This):
“Now, Harold, this is the tenth [or fiftieth] time we have gone over this; let’s do it again, and see if you can get it right this time, OK?” This is often said through gritted teeth hidden behind a “Hollywood” smile. Regardless of how it is said, the dire implications are crystal clear.
The translation [for the child or student] is: “I must be dumb.”
Kids have good “radar.”
Brain coach broadcasting “tight tummy”=”beaten brain” for the child
The mother can easily teach the neighbor’s child. How about switching places with the mother next door for coaching/learning purposes?
What a relief! 😮
Bright brains can still need much time to “get it”
Even the brightest of brains can take extended time to “get” some concepts. Einstein was called a “dolt” in school.
Why does it take so long to “get” some things? We do not know.
What we do know, is that every one of us has areas that we don’t “get” . . . yet . . . even far into adulthood. “Smarts” and “wisdom” don’t come easily in some areas of our lives, regardless of how intelligent and wise we are in other areas, eh?
The “brain coach” position requires high trust and easy learning strategies:
– “Chunk it down” (break everything–everything–down into small easy-to-learn segments)
– Make all the steps easier than necessary (this is easy to say, and may not be easy to do; this challenges the “brain coach.” eh?)
– Make it humorous, foolish or ridiculous if you have to, to solve the “easiness” criteria; in fact this is a good idea anytime, since the brain loves “oddball” and “far out” as some of its best learning tools)
– Smile 😮
– Smile 😮
It’s not a contest to see how much you can change the child/student (you can’t change anybody anyway, in case you haven’t noticed . . . yet). 😮
It’s just a simple sharing of brain strategies that are fun and easy to learn. Doc Meek can teach the “brain coach” in person, over the phone, by email, or by website blogging.
Simple example of how the brain learns best . . . easy . . . hopeful
Let’s say you are teaching a child/student how to use their brain to remember the spelling of a word. In this simple example, you would teach them how to spell such words as these:
Easy, rapid, quick, bright, smart, fast, hope, intelligent, and so on. 😮
You do NOT teach words such as:
Stupid, dumb, slow, etc. (If they never learn to spell these words properly, so much the better!).
To running our own brains better! 😮
Doc Meek, Mon, June 28, 2010, Sherwood Park, Alberta, CANADA
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