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“Recipe for depression.” ~ Doc Meek

Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out

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Tuesday, March 15, 2011. Today I am grateful for a friend who questioned me about depression. I had sent him the following “Recipe for Depression” and he queried me on it.

Here is the exchange:


(1) You notice that what is happening is what you want (you get your own way).

Result: You are happy.

(2) You notice that what is happening is what you don’t want (you don’t get your own way).

Result: You are not happy (you are depressed).

Since life does not always produce for you what you want, this is a guaranteed recipe for depression.


Stop basing happiness on whether you get your own way or not.

My friend replied:

That sounds good, Collins, but it’s just so natural to live the way you describe. Any suggestions as to how to change that or deal with it?

So, I guess I’m saying… You’ve told me the “what.” Now, please tell me the “how.”

So I replied to my friend:

I read Marci Shimoff’s book entitled Happy for No Reason and that provided a real start for me. Many “how’s” I think.

Then I got a “gratitude rock” (a small pebble) which I carry in my pocket continuously. Every time I reach in my pocket and touch the little rock, I think of something for which I am grateful. Actually feel grateful for, not something I “should” feel grateful for. I have slowly, very slowly, transformed my mental life from one of very natural criticism and complaints to one a healthier set of feelings of gratitude. Real feelings.

Just as real as the feelings of depression that haunted me for so many years.

Love and Respect, Collins

Side-notes with respect to my friend’s statement: “. . . it’s just so natural to live the way you describe [recipe for depression].”

(1) Yes, in our Western culture we do tend to live that way. That is why depression is so rampant.

(2) My Christian friends tell me that I should not try to live as the “natural man,” that I should try to live as the “spiritual man.”

(3) Knowing that my friend is a professing Christian, I should ask him, “What sayest thou to that?”

P.S. One thing in Marci’s book that caught me square in the solar plexus was one man (one of her group of “The Happy Hundred”) who said (and lived it):

“I am grateful for everything. I have no complaints whatsoever!”

I was so stunned when I read this that I determined to learn how to live like that!

I still have a long ways to go. However, I am getting there and it is so satisfying I cannot express how much in words.

Doc Meek, Tues, Mar 15, 2011, Sherwood Park, Alberta, CANADA

“I am grateful for everything.” ~ Doc Meek

Tuesday, January 11, 2011. Today I am taking my cue from one of Marci Shimoff’s “happy hundred,” in her book Happy for No Reason, who said, “I am grateful for everything; I have no complaints whatsoever.” Marci’s latest book is Love for No Reason.

About Marci Shimoff:
With book sales of more than 14 million copies worldwide in 31 languages, Marci Shimoff is one of the bestselling female nonfiction authors of all time. This is the latest breakthrough from this New York Times best-selling author, world-renowned transformational expert, author of Happy for No Reason, co-author of sixChicken Soup For The Soul books, and featured teacher in hit film The Secret. Her profound teachings are easy-to-understand … and her methods work!

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I’m not quite there yet (“no complaints whatsoever”). It is not easy to find gratitude when things are not going well, or I just don’t feel well, or I just have low feelings.

However, I was so stunned when I read Marci Shimoff’s “happy hundred” quote (“I have no complaints whatsoever!”) that I was determined to emulate that. This was a 180 degree turnabout for me, as I am a good editor (I can find even the minor mistake in anything).

However, people don’t want to be edited. They want to be loved and accepted, no matter what.

And I am very slowly learning to do that.

Thank you, Marci Shimoff, for taking the time to show us how to be happy and loving (even in a culture of constant complaints)! 😮

Doc Meek, Tuesday, January 11, 2011, Sherwood Park, Alberta, CANADA

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