Dad can guarantee learning success for his children

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The best tribute to pay Dad on Father’s Day

The best gift to Dad is to remind him of his power to guarantee the learning success of his children, no matter what the task.

My previous article, showing how Dad guaranteed success for his little son who was learning to bowl, was posted April 14, 2010. If you wish to see that, click on the URL immediately below:

Guarantee Learning Success for Everybody

Learning fears and humiliating failures can haunt learning for life

When youngsters are first learning a sport, they often have great fear of failure. They fear that they will prove incompetent, that they will fumble and look stupid and be embarrassed and on and on.

Often these initial fears, if not “cushioned” in some way, are fully realized as the child attempts a totally new set of tasks, and then the stark memory of learning failure may haunt him or her throughout life.

“Cushioning” these learning fears in some way can mean the difference between ongoing success in school and life, and ongoing failure in school and life.

Sports leaders can guarantee learning success

My brother attended a baseball game in which his young son was playing, and was impressed to see that the team leaders had provided many ways to guarantee learning success, by “chunking everything down,” as they say, breaking the multiple learning tasks into more easily-learnable segments.

Dad was delighted. His young son was delighted too. He could “smell success,” almost before he got started.

The sports leaders were affable and kind, radiating a generosity of spirit (as opposed to aggressive competitiveness and outbursts of anger).

First, even though this was a baseball game, the leaders were using a softball, bigger than a regulation baseball, so that the youngsters would find it easier to hit.

Second, the leaders mounted the ball on a short stand at home base, at just the right height for hitting, thus providing a “batting tee” for the aspiring baseball players. This “batting tee” is analogous to a “golfing tee,” except of course that it holds the ball much higher off the ground.

Regular baseball rules were modified

If the batter swung and missed the ball right in front of him, a “strike” was called of course. If the batter knocked the ball off the tee and the ball rolled into “foul” territory, a strike was called. No “balls” were called. The young players either “struck out” or ran. No “walking.”

If the batter knocked the ball off the tee and it rolled into “fair” territory, the batter ran.

If the batter hit the ball any distance, he ran of course.

Most plays were won on errors 😮

The young boys had a ball (no pun intended)! 😮

The leaders had a ball. The parents had a ball. Other spectators and bystanders had a ball. 😮

And the young players more easily mastered essential baseball skills, guaranteeing learning success. 😮

No child cried (except perhaps when they fell down swinging or running) and no child stayed home the next time a game was scheduled. 😮

All the players were successful in learning how to play baseball. More importantly, all the boys felt good about learning and playing, and having fun in the process. 😮

These “learning success” feelings often last a lifetime, helping the child experience learning success in school and work. 😮

Parents and teachers follow the same principles for learning success

Parents at home and teachers in the classroom follow the same principles to guarantee learning success in all endeavors. This is not easy to do. It is, however, do-able:

(1) Make the starting point easy and enjoyable, perhaps even fun.

(2) Chunk down the learning tasks into smaller, more easily-learnable segments.

(3) Modify the rules when necessary; create a community of learners.

(4) Leave aggression and competitiveness aside initially, and perhaps always. It can help us be better citizens. It can help us achieve a more cooperative and successful society.

(5) Smile. 😮

(6) Smile. 😮

(7) Smile. 😮

We can all even use these learning success principles with ourselves!

If we all laugh more, and take ourselves less seriously more, almost any learning task can be done successfully.

With good memories that last a lifetime.

To lifelong learning enjoyment!

Doc Meek, Sunday, June 20, 2010 (Father’s Day)

At Sherwood Park, Alberta, CANADA; not at South Jordan, Utah, USA

6 Responses to “Dad can guarantee learning success for his children”

  • Lori:

    Hey Dad, this is good advice. I’ll keep it in mind the next time I’m trying to teach my children something or learn something new myself. 🙂

  • Hey, good article. And I liked the part about leaving the aggressiveness and competitiveness out of it initially, maybe always. – Love, C

  • Craig:

    Hi Doc, These are good works and many in number. Your site is a great tribute to the life that you have led.

    You do not seem to be getting much activity on the blog. Perhaps you could consult with some of your internet specialists on how to increase the hits through the search engines.

    I am not an internet site expert at all. – Craig

  • Craig, Good to see you on THE LEARNING CLINIC WORLDWIDE blog! I am grateful for your suggestion about increasing readership and comments on my site. I’ll follow through. Thank you! – Doc

  • Norm:

    Your blog entry was interesting in its premise. However, I’m not convinced that a Dad can GUARANTEE a child’s learning success. He can give it his best shot but, ultimately, it’s the kid’s choice whether to learn anything from life. I have observed some kids that are so busy rebelling against parental controls that they simply “check out” of the system (and reap the rather negative consequences thereof). It is sad to see them drift, particularly if it’s for an extended period of time. – Norm

  • Norm, Good to hear from you on THE LEARNING CLINIC WORLDWIDE blog! Your comments are a good counterpoint to what I was saying on my blog about guaranteeing success in a learning task by “chunking it down” to the point of assured success on the part of the child. As the children get older, I think the paradigm shifts from the type of content item I was putting forward in my blog, to a process item: “You just love them, care about them, no matter what, no matter what their behavior or performance is. That’s respect!” You’re right of course: no human being can change another human being of age unless they want to make the shift themselves. The only way I know how to influence them towards change, is to change myself! Ouch! Not easy. Do-able. – Doc Meek

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