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Self-management of Personal Anger

A teacher wrote asking me to speak about personal anger management, as distinct from classroom or whole-school approaches. He said that his own personal anger interfered with student learning and his own learning, and that individual student anger stopped many students from engaging learning in a useful and enjoyable way.

So I said, “Here is a specific anger removal technique for individuals. This is the kind of protocol you should practice yourself over and over again so you can experience its effectiveness when practiced repeatedly. It is easy to practice repeatedly because it is so simple.”

“Once you master this yourself, you can teach it to others, whether colleagues, friends, family, or students.”

As a matter of fact, it would be a lot easier to master it yourself solely to prove to  yourself its effectiveness, and then simply show the video example to the other person to learn from the video. I have found it much better to simply use the video in private, not try to teach it personally unless there is some reason the person wants you to teach it personally. The beauty of the video as a teacher is that it is endlessly patient and will never get upset or angry with you if you are slow to learn. 😮

Specific Anger Removal for Individuals

This has been called the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or more simply, “Tapping,” and is very simply demonstrated in the following video by Magnus on YouTube:

Use this video to teach yourself in private, and then you can consider having your students learn to use it in private as well. Needless to say, you bring this to the attention of a specific student after he or she has calmed down and is quiet. Bring it to their attention quietly and privately, and only if you are able to determine that the student is willing to learn how to get rid of his or her anger that gets them into so much trouble.

After you have demonstrated the credibility of this “Tapping” video to yourself,  you can also teach its usefulness to your whole class (when things are calm and there is no anger incident at hand).

REMINDER: Remember that neither you nor your student is altogether getting rid of the capacity or ability to express anger. There may be times when expression of anger is not only appropriate, it might be life-saving. Usually not, however. Usually it is the case that personal anger control is the situation-saver and perhaps even the life-saver, for most circumstances. And that is the reason for learning this valuable “tapping-away-the-anger” technique.

Once you begin using the Magnus “Tapping” video on YouTube to help you and others control personal anger, you will find that there are also many other general and specific videos on anger management nearby to this one on YouTube.

Doc Meek

Edmonton and Calgary, Alberta, CANADA; and South Jordan, Utah, USA



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